Lecture 6
Basic counselling and handling problems

  • Pray with the person first and ask the Holy Spirit to take control.
    • Let the person speak, but listen intently whilst praying quietly. Be a good
      listener.

• Help guide the person to make the right decision rather than giving him the
answer. You can do this by asking the person what they think is right and then
agreeing, or if you do not agree, by asking further questions enabling the person to
think through the problem rationally, and come to the right decision themselves.
If the decision making isn't straightforward you can give tips or methods they can use to help them come to the right decision. Below are examples of charts that can be used.


Chart 1 - list advantages and disadvantages of each choice to help decide direction.

  Advantages Disadvantages
Choice 1    
Choice 2    


Chart 2 - list forces for and against reaching goal and then steps to achieve it.


Present situation i forces helping i forces against i steps to vision i vision or goal


In all counselling, lead the person away from sin and redirect them to God and prayer, and balance everything to agree with scripture.


Handling problems

  • Listen. By listening and praying, the Lord will show you where the stronghold is,
    the cause, or the nature of the problem. There are so many varieties of
    problems that it would take a manual to go through them all, and there are so
    many books one can read. Apply basic counselling skills. Do not take sides,
    but help lead them to the truth, forgiveness and reconciliation.
  • For personal problems a person may face, the following will help you the most.
  1. Find out in the gospels where Jesus was faced with a similar problem that you
    are facing.
  2. Find out how Jesus reacted and dealt with the similar problem that faced Him.
    1. Handle your problem in the same way as Jesus did. It may not agree with the
      way the world does things, but I will guarantee it will work every time with the
      most glorious, victorious and successful outcome. Jesus was tempted and hurt
      in every way that we will be tempted and hurt.

When I discovered this, after putting it into practice for a year to see if it worked, I decided it was the only way to live, and have kept to it ever since.


George testimony
My horse George was stolen by a very unreasonable person so I prayed and asked the Lord how I could get my horse back. The Lord gave me Matthew 5:40 - And if any man will sue thee at the law and take away thy coat, let him have thy cloak also. " Lord," I answered, "How will this get George back?" "Wait" came the reply. I waited three months. Then the Lord said, "Put £200 into an envelope take a truck and the horse will be released to you today." I obeyed, went, found the person and gave her the £200 in the envelope and watched her count it. I said "I know that really you are a good person and will do the right thing in letting me take George back today, therefore I give you this gift." She agreed and I joyfully brought George back home.
Next day, this lady phoned and said, "I stole your horse, yet for three months you do nothing and then you give me a gift to return your horse, why?" "Because Jesus loves you", I said. "What, Jesus loves me, a rotten sinner? " "Yes, Jesus loves you so much that He sent His only son to die in your place on the cross. Confess your sin to Him and He will forgive you and give you eternal life. Would you like to do this and receive Him as Lord and saviour?" "Yes!" she cried, "Please pray for me and I will never hurt anyone again." I led her through the sinner's prayer and her life was changed forever.
Jesus has the answer to every problem. We deals with problems from the heavenly perspective and not the worldly perspective. When we learn from Jesus through reading the Bible, He will show you Himself, the greatest and most marvellous ways of dealing with problems that will make you rejoice, as He has done for me.


Questions to discuss

  1. What problems have you had to deal with and how did you handle them?
  2. What was the result of the way you handled your problem, and how did it differ
    with the way Jesus would have handled it?
  3. Draw one of the charts and put your own directional decisions or goal in it, and
    find out how it can help you effectively.
  4. Name 3 stages of counselling a person.

 

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